I think if people live together, there is nothing wrong with registry/gifts. People want to give you gifts to celebrate your marriage, get some upgrades like nicer curtains or nicer sheets.

Why does my bf talk about marriage and how he can't wait to marry me soon and then a few days later comment on marrying me in 5 years or so?? Is he doing this to throw me off??

LIB has been talking about marriage lately. Nothing official, just discussing the possibility. He made a comment about needing to find something other than rings, as neither one of us is into jewelry. Okay, this is true. I have one necklace I always wear, and that's it. Not even pierced ears. But an engagement or wedding ring isn't just jewelry. I don't need something super expensive and flashy. But I would like some sort of ring. I'm too afraid of seeming materialistic to say anything though. Guess I'll just buy myself something pretty someday.

I posted about my BF not believing in marriage and being okay with it. Turns out, he's okay with it and proposed last night. I'm terrified, but I'm happy. Please, let us not turn out like our parents horrible marriages. I know I picked an amazing partner. Let's take this journey together.

My boyfriend doesn't believe in marriage and I'm okay with that. But I can't help but to envy girls in their beautiful dresses and having a night that is just about them.

I hate it when i hear about miltary courthouse weddings and the bride wanting to have a real wedding a year later. Milking the government for the extra pay while pretending not to be really married because you want a Real wedding. Most these marriage end in divorce anyway because once the man gets out of the army the PTSD has changed him. Ladies do yourselves a favor. Wait. If you still want to marry him 1 year post army then do it.

I am just going to lay it out there. I don't get why westerners are so afraid of marriage. With easterners, marriage is seen as natural progression of growing up, they embrace arranged marriage or even young people are not afraid to get married. With westerners, there are so many excuses, house first, long engagement first, credit history check, moving in first, this and that, cold feet, even older people still giving out the 'not ready'. Marriage is viewed like a nightmare and 'life is over' kind of thing. Why?

So, you managed to get some new guy to bareback you in bed. You managed to get pregnant. You coerced a marriage proposal, you even gave him the ring to use. All this just a few months after you talked me out of loaning you money to 'start over, make something of yourself'? Will I be in your wedding? F*ck no. Never, and I want that money back.

I was engaged twice before I got married. I am so glad I didn't go through with either of those marriages. One man kept a job search entirely secret until he told me we were moving to another state. One man could not stand up to his mother, she was the first woman in his life and that was not going to change by marrying me. I now have a wonderful DH. So - if something is making you unhappy now - LEAVE! It's easier to cancel a wedding than to get a divorce. Happiness is possible.

I wish my husband had bought me a simple solitaire. He would not spend money on an engagement ring for me. That pretty much was a prediction of what the marriage would be like. He's cheap.