I have been told many times that I'm one of the most relaxed, laid-back brides one has seen. My fiance and I are planning (and paying for) the wedding ourselves. My bridesmaids are choosing their own style of dress, hair, and nails so they are comfortable and happy as possible. We're not bothering with a seating chart because everyone's going to move and sit with whom they want anyway. I have yet to freak out about anything, even the military PCS. Our wedding is just going to be one gigantic party with everyone we love, which is how we believe it should be.

We're not getting married until we can afford the wedding we want. That doesn't mean I'm saving up for specific million-dollar antique centrepieces. But if we have to turn into hermits to afford dinner for 50, or ask my parents or the in-laws for money, or go without a honeymoon, or make the wedding party pay for their outfits, we will just put off the wedding. We live together anyway, a wedding would really just be for us. I don't think less of you if you don't agree, but that's how I plan to do it.

I hate it when i hear about miltary courthouse weddings and the bride wanting to have a real wedding a year later. Milking the government for the extra pay while pretending not to be really married because you want a Real wedding. Most these marriage end in divorce anyway because once the man gets out of the army the PTSD has changed him. Ladies do yourselves a favor. Wait. If you still want to marry him 1 year post army then do it.

i've been planning my wedding for a couple months - it's january 19. we're already married (civl ceremony, military), but we want a reception when he gets home from afghanistan. one of my close friends got engaged last week, and she decided she wants to get married at the end of january too! it wouldn't be that big a deal except my main gal will probably be HER maid of honor. so MOH will be burdened w/ 2 weddings at the end of january. i tried to tell her to switch it but my MOH won't. she probably feels stuck in the middle and its selfish of me, but i wish she'd stick up for me.

I don't want my FMIL's name on my invitations.

I'm so angry. My future MIL wants to invite all these people to my wedding that I don't even know because of a "social obligation" she has. My fiancé wants to let her because it's "easier" that way. It is my damn wedding and I don't want these people there and yet I know I'm going to lose. Ridiculous.

FFIL proposed to FMIL after 6 weeks. They were married within six months. They are still together approx 30 years later, and as much as they are the most disagreeable people I know, it's obvious they're still very much in love. The whole family loves to remind me that when ILs were the same age as FH and me, they already had their oldest boy. And then they nudge us.

How am I supposed to make it through the next 2 years of my engagement without coming here to bitch about my bitching FMIL!?

I seriously didn't notice anything people wore to my wedding except my mom & my MIL. My mom looked like a 45 yo bridesmaid and his mom looked like a 41 yo grandma. (His mom also looked like that for my SIL's wedding. If my BIL gets married we need to high jack her outfit....)

BIL is getting married this summer. DH is his best man. DH hasn't talked to his brother since December. Anytime anything comes up, his fiancee texts DH. Umm.. BIL how about you pick up the phone and call yourself. It's your wedding and your brother will not chase you down. He tried being involved even tho we live thousands of miles away, but everytime he asked you a question, you said you would get back to him. Plus, you treated our family like shit, so be lucky your brother still wants to be apart of this wedding.